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1. Read both options out loud.
2. Everyone answers at once. In the fastest version, hesitating counts as a loss.
3. Go round the circle, or let one person answer ten in a row as fast as they can.

Updated November 2026.

1. Sunrise or Sunset?
2. Beach or Mountains?
3. Cats or Dogs?
4. Pancakes or Waffles?
5. Summer or Winter?
6. Early bird or Night owl?
7. Sweet or Salty?
8. Call or Text?
9. Camping or Hotel?
10. City break or Road trip?
11. Make a plan or Wing it?
12. Big party or Small dinner?
13. Binge a show or One episode a week?
14. Brunch or Late dinner?
15. Cook at home or Order in?
16. Fold laundry right away or Live out of the basket?
17. Host the dinner party or Be the guest?
18. House with a yard or Apartment with a view?
19. Wedding with 200 guests or Wedding with 20 guests?
20. Morning shower or Night shower?
21. Drive or Be driven?
22. In-laws visit you or You visit the in-laws?
23. Day off in bed or Day off on an adventure?
24. Small talk or Deep talk?
25. Fancy restaurant or Food truck?
26. One big vacation or Lots of weekend trips?
27. Candlelit dinner or Picnic in the park?
28. Plan the date or Be surprised?
29. Slow dance or Fast dance?
30. Love letter or Surprise gift?
31. Big spoon or Little spoon?
32. Matching outfits or Never matching?
33. Breakfast in bed or Dinner out?
34. Hold hands or Arm around the shoulder?
35. Movie night in or Night on the town?
36. Share dessert or Order your own?
37. Say I love you first or Hear it first?
38. Sunrise hike or Stargazing?
39. Cuddle or Personal space?
40. Inside jokes or Pet names?
41. Handwritten note or Sweet text?
42. Beach honeymoon or City honeymoon?
43. Cook together or One cooks, one cleans?
44. Romantic comedy or Action movie?
45. Anniversary trip or Anniversary party?
46. Road trip DJ or Road trip navigator?
47. Morning kisses or Goodnight kisses?
48. Flowers or Chocolates?
49. Dance lessons or Cooking class?
50. Same side of the booth or Opposite sides?
51. Thermostat warm or Thermostat cold?
52. Steal the blanket or Steal the pillow?
53. Kiss in the rain or Kiss under the stars?
54. Grand gesture or Small daily kindness?
55. Talk it out now or Sleep on it?
56. Couple costumes or Separate costumes?
57. Double date or Just the two of us?
58. Love note in the lunch bag or Love note on the mirror?
59. Recreate the first date or Try something brand new?
60. Serenade or Poem?
61. Spontaneous weekend or Planned vacation?
62. Love at first sight or Slow burn?
63. Lazy Sunday or Busy Saturday?
64. Partner's cooking or Your cooking?
65. Movie theater date or Mini golf date?
66. Write your own vows or Speak from the heart?
67. Matching tattoos or Matching rings?
68. Colored lights or White lights?
69. Ugly sweater or Matching pajamas?
70. Sledding or Ice skating?
71. Wrap gifts neatly or Use gift bags?
72. Homemade gift or Store-bought gift?
73. Big family Christmas or Quiet Christmas?
74. Christmas in the snow or Christmas on the beach?
75. Cozy fireplace or Drive to see lights?
76. Mistletoe kiss or Fireside cuddle?
77. One big gift or Lots of small gifts?
78. Wrap presents early or Wrap on Christmas Eve?
79. New Year's Eve party or New Year's Eve at home?
80. Wool socks or Fuzzy slippers?
81. Ice skating date or Holiday market date?
82. Holiday baking or Holiday crafts?
83. Snowy walk or Movie marathon?
84. Mulled wine or Hot apple cider?
85. Give gifts or Get gifts?
86. Toast at midnight or Fireworks at midnight?
87. Snowboard or Ski?
88. Roller coaster or Ferris wheel?
89. Haunted house or Corn maze?
90. Costume party or Movie night at home?
91. Couples costume or Solo costume?
92. Watching through your fingers or Eyes wide open?
93. Ghost tour or Escape room?
94. Finish the scary movie or Hide in the kitchen?
95. Matching costumes or Matching pajamas?
96. Scaring your partner or Getting scared?
97. Night out or Night in?
98. Midnight kiss or Midnight toast?
99. Fireworks show or Couch and blanket?
100. Trip for two or Party for twenty?
101. Cook or Clean up?
102. Stay the night or Drive home after?
103. Your family's house or Your partner's family's house?

Tips for a better game

• Play a speed round: one person, ten cards, three seconds each.
• After a round, find the two people who matched on the most answers.
• Write answers down before the reveal, so nobody copies the loudest player.

Questions people ask

What are some good This or That questions for couples?

Five from this list: Summer or Winter? Wedding with 200 guests or Wedding with 20 guests? Breakfast in bed or Dinner out? Road trip DJ or Road trip navigator? Serenade or Poem?

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